“On this healing path, are you prepared to look deeper, to reveal and ease your hidden pain and release your sadness? As much discomfort as you feel right now, are you open and willing to explore? It may not feel like it now, but this elevated experience of agitation is your spirit’s gift to you.” 

This exercise activates awareness which is the most potent tool you have in changing unwanted behaviors. It helps you wake up, and when you wake up to what no longer supports happiness, everything shifts.

What does it take to stop cycles of behavior that have us stuck in suffering? Learning how to pay attention is the first step.

This practice will help you do that.

Commit to looking at what shows up. Tend to the feelings that surface and keep going. It is so worth it.

  1. Stop- Notice what it feels like to be triggered by an event, a person, or your environment. Don’t try to figure it out or build a storyline around your feelings. Just be aware that something has happened that feels unsettling. Now start to breathe deeply. Continue to take long deep breaths for as long as it takes to calm your emotions. Ask yourself, am I able to have a supportive conversation now or wait? (I give myself at least a day to gain perspective.)
  2. Look- When you drop the need to defend your own actions and understand that we all fall short at one time or another, our hearts open—to ourselves and to others. The lens of life magically opens, no longer restricted by blame, anger, and expectations. From there we can embrace the situation and take “right” action. No regrets to deal with, no hurt to rectify. Just forward positive momentum.
    *Note that this can be a challenging step, and requires you offer yourself a huge amount of compassion before you move on.
  3. Listen- Bring your attention inside. Drop into the nonreactive place of your spirit. Place your hands on your heart center, right hand over the left hand, and take a deep breath into your energetic heart space. Mentally vibrate this mantra: Everything is safe in this moment.

Feel the response of your body, mind, heart, and spirit. Even the smallest shifts count. Journal the experience and take note of how different it feels to respond gracefully rather than react defensively.

Each time you practice this, you retrain your brain. When you pause before reacting, you mindfully navigate through information and decide what deserves your attention and what to let go. This honors personal energy and is a generous act of self-love.

I hope this article was supportive if so, check out my book Inside: A Guide to the Resources Within. The book has 40 daily practices to guide you inside to happiness and health.
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Peace, peace, blessed peace. 🐞