Stop, Look, and Listen: 3 Steps to Wake Up and Respond Gracefully

by | Nov 25, 2020

Stop, Look, and Listen: 3 Steps to Wake Up and Respond Gracefully

What does it take to stop cycles of behavior that have us stuck in suffering? Learn to pay attention. This practice will help you do that.
This exercise activates awareness, and awareness is the most potent tool you have in changing unwanted behaviors. It helps you wake up, and when you wake up to what no longer supports happiness, everything shifts.

Commit to looking at what shows up. Tend to the feelings that surface and keep going.

  1. Stop- Notice what it feels like to be triggered by an event, a person, or your environment. Don’t try to figure it out or build a storyline around your feelings. Just be aware that something has happened and it feels unsettling. Now start to breathe deeply. Continue to take long deep breaths for as long as it takes to calm your emotions. Assess whether you are able to have a supportive conversation now, if not, wait. (I give myself at least a day to gain perspective in tough situations)
  2. Look-  Inquire within, the lens of your life will open and inform you. From there you can embrace the situation and take the “right” action. No regrets to deal with, no hurt to rectify. Just forward positive momentum. Note that this can be a really challenging step, and it requires that you offer yourself a huge amount of compassion before you move on.
  3. Listen- Bring your attention inside. Drop into the nonreactive place of your spirit, that place of grace. Put your hands on your heart center. Take a deep breath into your energetic heart space. Mentally vibrate this mantra: Grace Allows My Spirit an Expansive Experience of ME.

Feel the response of your body, mind, heart, and spirit. Even the smallest shifts count. If you are inspired, journal the experience, how different does it feels to respond gracefully rather than react defensively?

Each time you practice this, you are retraining your brain. When you pause before reacting, you mindfully navigate through old behaviors that keep you stuck in hurtful patterns. YOU deserve a clean slate, a restart, decide what deserves your attention and what to let go. This honors personal energy and is a generous act of self-love.


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Inside~ A Guide to the Resources Within, here: https://amzn.to/2ViV1Nw

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