Letting go could be the biggest leap of faith there is. Holding on tight to the tenderest circumstances of life is something we have been taught to do from a very young age.
When I was a budding beginner on this healing path, I used to think that letting go was an impossible feat. When the concept was introduced to me in a class I took, I felt the teacher had no idea how deep my wounds were, and that if she did, she would know that letting go would not be an option.
I have grown and moved beyond that very personal hurt, but I still remember how tightly I held on to the pain and suffering. Somehow that contracted state served me then. It felt justified, and I was resistant to letting it go. I have compassion for my young self; I wasn’t in a place that supported that healing yet, so I stayed in that place until I was ready to surrender.
No one can tell us when it is our time to heal our wounds. In my case, surrender didn’t come gracefully. I fought it. Surrender felt weak and disempowered until one day that anger, hurt, and contracted way of living took me to my knees. Then and only then did I bow to a Greater Power and learn the true meaning of the words letting go.
I come to my learning more gracefully now, but when I have a lapse of forgetfulness, and that happens, I remind myself of how it feels when I am resisting what is by asking, “Am I experiencing contraction, tightness, and limited beliefs, or am I expansive in my emotions, vision, and faith?” This will snap me out of the resistance and help me stay open to the learning in front of me.
Letting go is hopeful, faith filled, and so much easier than staying stuck in suffering. Maybe it’s my age or my years of being on this path, but I am just not interested in holding on to something that is dead-ended.
Now I jump in with both feet and welcome challenge, knowing that there is nothing that is insurmountable. I bow to my life, with trust that each lesson has shown up to make me stronger so I can fulfill my life’s work.
Ardas Bhaee: A Mantra of Answered Prayers
I started to chant this mantra last November. I had no idea how important it would become to me. It prepared me for all of the events of this year: my book launch, private work with clients, corporate workshops, retreats, and two six-month empowerment programs. With all the excitement also came concerns and questioning. Every time the questions and worry came in, this mantra was my saving grace. It brought me back to the real reason I was doing what I was doing. My questions of self-worth faded to the background as I let go and handed them over to a source far more capable of taking care of all this than I.
Ardas Bhaee, Amar Das Guru,
Amar Das Guru, Ardas Bhaee,
Ram Das Guru, Ram Das Guru,
Ram Das Guru, Sachee Sahe
This mantra holds the energy of grace, hope, healing, and blessings. This is the prayer to answer all prayers.
Posture: Sit cross-legged on a cushion with a tall spine, or sit straight up in a chair with your feet flat on the floor. Then bring your hands into Venus Mudra, clasping your hands together by interlacing your fingers and positioning them at the level of your heart center (women with their left thumb over the right thumb, men with their right thumb over the left thumb).
Relax your bent elbows by your sides. Create some tension with your hands, gripping the fingers tighter than normal.
Close your eyes and focus at your third eye, the point between your brows. Hold that focus and chant for 11 minutes.
To finish: Inhale, suspend your breath briefly, then exhale and relax.
It just may be your time to hand over your greatest worries. But if you’re not fully ready, know with all your heart that the best we can do is honor where we are in that moment, stay steady, and believe that with an open heart everything is possible.