Each time I take a seat with my discomfort, I get better at hearing the important messages that unsettling feelings reveal.

While this is not always an easy task, it is the fastest route to getting through the pain.

I know this is because for a long time I ran from discomforts. I’d do anything not to feel the unease. I’d get busy doing something, thinking I was outsmarting the inevitable, but the truth is, there is no such thing.

Uneasy feelings show up for a reason, to be resolved. These very emotions reveal a part of us to ourselves that longs to be heard. Each time we listen we give way to gentler lessons. Life is not smooth sailing, but with measured, mindful consideration of ourselves, we can smooth out the sharp edges of our experience.

So why not get good at hanging with discomfort? What you’ll find is that the discomfort moves through faster than if you avoid it, and oh, by the way, there is no such thing as out running pain.

Here’s a suggestion: Invite your uncomfortable feelings in for tea, but make sure you let those very feelings know they are not welcome to stay for dinner.

Give yourself a certain amount of time to feel. (Cry, journal, take a walk with a loved one and speak of your concerns, and then… move on for that day)

Self-care smooths out this process, developing soothing techniques will help you feel safe in the discomfort and each time you do it you’ll get stronger and more capable.

Here are a few of my self-care treasures:

  1. Take a seat right away when you feel these feelings come in. Close your eyes and take 3 deep breaths. 
  2. Put on some gentle, soothing music that helps you connect with your feelings.
  3. Go outside and get in Nature.

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