A few weeks ago I opened a blog survey to get some feedback from you, the readers. It was only six questions long and completely anonymous. (You’re still welcome to take it if you’d like to!)
I knew I had to write today’s post to say, I loved your responses! I want to extend a huge thank you to everyone who took the time to complete the survey, or to reach out to me through the blog comments, social media, email, and in person.
All of the responses were very meaningful to me, but there are a couple that keep popping into my mind even weeks later:
“At first I thought it was an odd and even unrealistic expectation to take care of myself first before my family, friends, job, house etc… Now I realize it is essential to my well-being and contentment.”
This response validated for me that my message is being heard: when you take the time (even a few minutes a day!) to make yourself a whole, happy, grounded person, you are able to give more and love stronger for the people in your life. Self care is as necessary as exercise and medicine to remaining a healthy person through good times and bad.
“I find that when I read or get advice from you I often consider what changes I’d need to make in my life to implement them, and then make those changes directly instead of following your advice to the letter.”
I love this response because this reader has empowered herself. She knows that following my practices can be helpful, but what she needs in that moment is a change to the structure of her life. Taking control of her time, energy, and so on, is a declaration of self care. And soon I’m sure she’ll feel confident and strong enough to implement her own self care rituals into her life.
It’s occurred to me that the greatest service we do in life it to empower ourselves through love and care of self.